I’ve been typing and re-typing this post over and over for the past week. Every time I try to find the words to say, I’m at a loss. There is simply so much to say.
So, here I am, finally sitting down and putting the words out there in the best way that I can.
First off, I need to say that my heart is aching. As I posted on Facebook:
My heart hurts.
It hurts for my fellow women. It hurts for the LGBT community. It hurts for people of all nationalities and ancestries living in the US. It hurts for those practicing religions that aren’t aligned with the popular views. It hurts for the immigrants that were hoping to come here and live the American dream.
Truly, I am scared. Very, very scared.
But, a reminder: somehow, love WILL trump hate.
Second, I also am feeling a lot of hope. I know, that sounds weird, but in recent days my timeline has been filled with positive words, hope, and encouragement. Be it from pages that I follow, friends and colleagues, or the Pantsuit Nation, I find myself uplifted more often than not. My world is filled with movers and shakers that are ready to make a difference.
Third, as I am coming to terms with the election and it’s aftershocks, I am finding myself thankful for what happened. Now, hear me out: I am not glad that Trump is president. I never will be. I am not glad that there is such blatant racism, xenophobia, sexism, anger, hatred, etc. rampant in our society. But, I am glad that we are now aware of it. If it weren’t for this election and what has happened in the days since, many in our nation would have continued on their merry ways completely unaware of the schisms in our society.
Before this, it was all too easy to claim that here in the United States, we are above other nations and everyone gets along. For many, it has been clear for a long time that this is not the case. But for just as many, it has not. And now, they know and can act.
While yesterday may have been a day of mourning for many people in this country, I think it’s important today we mobilize into action. To help spread love whenever possible. To listen better. To empathize. To reach across party lines and to connect. To recognize our differences and to not vilify them, but celebrate them. To get involved. To work together. And yes, to stand together, at a time when our country is so deeply divided. It won’t be easy. It won’t be pretty. But nothing worth having ever is.
Today, we don’t plan our moves to Canada. Today, we dig our heels in and work even harder and more diligently — together.
Regardless of who you supported on Tuesday, our civic duty doesn’t end at the voting polls. If there’s a change you’d like to see, we have a decision to make. We can either lose momentum and continue to point fingers at each other (or worse yet, give in to apathy). Or we can kick the shit out of option B.
I’m with Krystal. Let’s kick the shit out of option B. Need some ideas on how to do so? There are marches and peaceful protests happening all over the nation in the coming weeks and months; I myself am attending one in Oakland tomorrow night. Volunteer at Planned Parenthood. Volunteer at your local government office with a representative that echoes your views. If you see someone making inappropriate comments, very carefully and tactfully insert yourself into the situation in a way that protects yourself and the abused. Be aware of your own words and actions.
Together, as a nation, we will get through this. It won’t be easy and it may not be pretty, but I know that we will.
Be a mover and a shaker. Make a difference in your own way.
And, above all, don’t give up.